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dart-light444201_1920I will lose weight.
I will become more successful.
I will be more productive.

How many of these sound familiar? Every year, month, week, and even day people make statements like those as a way of setting goals that they often don’t accomplish. If you’re like most, in the beginning you have all the momentum in the world, yet somehow by the end of January you find that you have swept them under the rug.

This tends to happen because you’re not setting your goals, in what I consider to be the “right way.” Actually, what most consider goals really aren’t. Typically what most people create are basic statements, which are fine, but they need more muscle to really go the distance. There’s a process I encourage you to use that can help you set as well as accomplish your goals.

  1. Put yourself at the core of what you create-When creating your goals it’s important that you put yourself at the core of what you create. If you were to go through your list of goals and ask yourself why you want to accomplish them, your answer should be because it’s something of value to YOU. When you create goals around others, they don’t become a priority to you, and you find yourself working towards it less and less.
  2. Get emotional-Envision what you want the end result to be. Think about what areas of your life reaching your goal will impact and how you want things to look; most importantly, think about how you want to feel. Ask yourself what internal or emotional experiences you want to have and let that factor into what you’re creating.
  3. Instead of creating from ego, create from the spiritual side of things-Rather than setting goals that would seem to bolster your ego create from within. What things are you led to do? What calls or speaks to you? Use meditation as a means of discovery. Connect to Source and see what’s revealed. Journaling is another method that proves to be quite effective.
  4. Set your intentions-If you reread the list I mentioned earlier, you’ll notice that they are very vague. This is where making them S.M.A.R.T. comes into play. Making them specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time bound makes them solid. It turns vague statements and resolutions into goals.

After you take these steps, determine how you will reach each goal by creating a plan and remember the “by when” date you gave to each as you do. The more specific you are with the details of the plan the more likely it is you’ll reach the goal.  If you want to lose weight, instead of “I will lose weight” your goal would be,  “I want to lose 20 pounds by April 1st.” This is short and sweet, but it’s S.M.A.R.T. Some of the steps you might take to get there are:

  • Drinking at least 8 glasses of water a day
  • Eating whole foods and cooking at home 5 times a week
  • Exercising for a minimum of 30 minutes every day

As you can see, taking that vague statement and giving it some depth it becomes more specific and clear. It also makes it easier to add the steps to help you get there. I want you to truly look at these 4 steps, and use them to create your list of goals for the year. (Just because it isn’t the first of the year doesn’t mean it’s too late!) Remember to make them S.M.A.R.T, as those who do are more likely to be in the 8% of people who actually accomplish what they create. If all of this feels a bit challenging for you or even intimidating and you’d like help creating your goals and a plan to reach them I invite you to sign up for a private session with me!

 


Dart & GoalsWhen it comes to creating goals right from the start people lack clarity. Clarity is everything. Like driving down the road, if you can’t see or if you don’t know where you’re going, you can’t get there. Be very clear about what you want and where you’re going. The “how” isn’t an issue, just get clear and create the vision and experience it. Go beyond seeing it. Hear the things that you would hear inside of the vision you’re creating; the conversations that would take place…experience your vision through all of your senses.

The second reason is making the mistake of making a resolution and confusing it with a goal, or creating goals that are incomplete and doing so from a space that doesn’t give you any power. Resolutions are fine, but they don’t have the muscle to endure the time it will take to see them through and they’re missing a few things. Typically when people create goals they’re not detailed, there’s no way to measure them to see if you’re on track  to reach them or even too far-fetched. They’re not relevant and they have no time assigned to them.

You want to create your goals from a space of power, which means that you have to begin with a much different approach. If you’ve listened to any of my radio shows or read more of my posts, you’ve heard this already, but I’m going to repeat it. Dump what you’ve learned or might have been taught about creating goals and start with your intention. What do you want to create? It might be that what you’ve resolved to do or your resolution is your intention. Then move on to thinking about the experiences you want to have. Once you know what these things are, you can create your goals. This process has you be truly connected to what you create and it empowers you.

Finally, you’re set up to fail due to your lack of commitment. The Law of Commitment governs the manifestation of your goals.  You have to actually want to manifest what you say you want to manifest in order for it to show up.  That sounds pretty obvious, but what you may not realize is that although you say you’re committed to what you want, at times there’s something lurking in the background, behind what you say you’re committed to.  In that space you may find stronger, unconscious commitments that you didn’t know existed.  Start digging to see what you’re really committed to.

Each of these reasons are connected. With clarity you can set your intention, determine experiences and set your goals and then make the commitment necessary to pull it all off. Keep in mind that these are just 3 things to be aware of, the entire process is more involved, but take the steps and get started.

 


CarMapCompass-SmallKey Point #5-Have a Plan!  Okay, so now we’re at the final key to consider when creating your goals. This is one of the biggest mistakes that I see people make.  They jump on the road to their destination, but have no clue as to how they’re getting there.  They might even know some of the details, but that’s simply not enough.  Working toward your goals without a plan is like attempting to drive a long distance without a road map.  Think about this for a moment, would you attempt to drive across the country without a map that tells you how far you have to travel, how long it’s going to take to get there, the cities and states that you’ll go through and the places that are available for you to stop for what you need along the way like gas, food and a place to sleep?  Of course you wouldn’t.  As crazy as this sounds, this is what so many people are doing on a regular basis.  They’re embarking on their journey, but don’t have a plan to help them get there.

Your plan is your road map.  It details where you’re starting from, where you’re going and all of the points in between.  It defines your milestones—those points along the way that are major accomplishments along the road to accomplishing your goal.  You need to know and then map out your course of action.  You have to create the larger pieces of the puzzle, or the milestones, that you have to pass-or accomplish along the way.  Once you’ve determined them, you have to figure out the smaller tasks that have to get done so that you can reach each of those milestones and figure out what has to happen.  Who do you need to support you?  Do you have to have a budget to get there, and what’s it going to cost?  What other resources do you need to get you from point A to point B?

That may seem like a lot to think about and you might be someone who thinks that planning is a waste of time, but I’m here to tell you that not planning is what will waste your time over and over again.  When you plan and you consider all of the pieces, you also reveal the obstacles that could come up in the process, which allows you to create a plan for dealing with them should they arise.  If they come up during your pursuit, you know exactly what to do, instead of wondering how to handle the monkey wrench and having to stop to figure it out and stopping your progress.  This is just one of the ways that planning saves time.

So there you have it…the 5 key points for creating your goals.  There are also other things that come into play to help contribute to your success and if you’re missing them, and the things that I mentioned in this series you will undoubtedly fail.  If you’re struggling right now, get these key points in play.  I’m sure that implementing them will help you.

 


VisionMagGlassKey #4-Create and Hold Your Vision  I’m back with Key # 4 of 5 Key Points For Creating Your Goals.  It’s really hard to get where you want to go if you don’t have a clear picture of what it looks like.  When all of the details aren’t there, you don’t have a clear vision in your mind of what your goal looks like.  With that missing, it makes it hard to get where you’re going.  Lack of vision keeps people from what they want all the time.  It’s really easy to know what you want, but you’ve got to be able to see it clearly, with all of the detail.  If you can’t see where you’re going, you can’t get there, so you have to have a clear picture of what you want.

Start by having a very vibrant, clear picture of each of your goals.  See each goal as you would a movie and allow that vision to inspire you.  As you watch each of these movies, make note of what you see, what you hear, feel–all of those fine details that people tend to leave out.  If you could achieve that goal, exactly what would your life look like?  Bill Gate’s vision was “There will be a personal computer on every desk running Microsoft software.”  To help you with the process, try visualizing what you want during a meditation.  Take your time; create a vivid picture of what you want.  See the things and the people that you need to help it come into play.  See what happens when you actually reach your goal.  Think about how that would make you feel and get in touch with those emotions and allow yourself to feel them.  Take in the entire experience.

Vision boarding is another way to create a clear picture of what you want.  If that’s something that fits for you, start cutting out pictures, words, and phrases that represent your goal and paste them to poster board, a scrap book or photo album or just plain paper.  Keep your board where you can see it, and make sure you revisit what you created often.  You have to keep visual reminders of where you’re going in front of you to help fuel you forward toward what you want.  Your vision helps create the context for your goals.  Create that context and then go for your goal inside of that context.

Start to create your vision now, and I’ll “see” you in the final post.

 


GoalonClearBoard-SmallKey #3-What’s Your Level of Commitment?  Okay, so we’re at the mid-way point of the 5 Key Points for creating your goals. When it comes to goals, typically what happens is that people jump in and start that hot pursuit before they’ve truly committed themselves to what they’re doing, which is of course one reason why their efforts get stalled after about a month or so.

The Law of Commitment governs the manifestation of your goals.  You have to actually want to manifest what you say you want to manifest in order for it to show up.  Now, I know that sounds pretty obvious, but what you may not realize is that although you say you’re committed to what you want, there’s usually something lurking in the background, behind what you say you’re committed to.  Behind what you say you’re committed to are stronger, unconscious commitments that you don’t know exist.

Let me tell you what I mean by that.  People tend to have commitment confused with desire or obligation.  Desire is a want, or an aspiration.  Obligation is a responsibility or a duty—it might even be something that you feel a compulsion for, but it’s not commitment and neither is desire.  They both may be in the mix when it comes to commitment, but they are distinct from it.  Contrary to popular belief, commitment is not a thing. Commitment is giving yourself over to what you want; completely.  It’s never about what you’re doing, but instead, who you’re being.

Start digging to see what you’re really committed to.  As you dig, you’re looking for things that you don’t know about; things that are in your blind spots.  Let me give you a couple of examples.  You might be at a point right now where you’re stalled in your efforts when it comes to getting fit.  What you’ve said you’re committed to is your health and well being, but what you might just be committed to is eating whatever you want and being lazy and just letting it ride.  You might say that you’re truly committed to a relationship, but what you’re really committed to is being selfish and being unavailable.  Look at how you are actually living your life to see how that contrasts with what you say you’re committed to. Those hidden commitments work against you achieving your goals.  The truth is that they are running the show and they determine how you operate in the world.

I know what I just said might take a minute for you to wrap your head around it, but I encourage you to explore what I said and dig deep to see what you’re really committed to and be ready for the next post in this series.

 

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